Wednesday, November 6, 2013

My love-hate relationship with Vogue

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I can't remember the last time I opened an issue of Vogue, but as I was waiting in the grocery line the other day, just mindlessly glancing at the covers of all the women's magazines I haven't bought in years*, I started thinking about the big pile of Vogues I used to own.

I signed up for a year-long subscription to the magazine in high school when I thought I had to because I wanted to work in fashion, and everyone, but not least of all Carrie motherfucking Bradshaw (as I like to call her), treated the magazine like it was the holy grail. 
 
I would keep all my issues in a neat stack on one shelf of my nightstand and force myself to read every article as soon as the magazine came in the mail even though I found them to be incredibly boring.

It made me feel sophisticated to have Vogue. (Plus the photos and the models they'd feature are beyond stunning.)

Except that, it also made me feel like shit.

I couldn't then and I still can't now afford anything that is featured in Vogue. I can't afford the $1,000 cardigan they put on Karlie Kloss in the back pages and I can't afford the Louis Vuitton purse pictured in that fat bunch of ads at the beginning of the magazine.

But, of course, for people like me, the magazine is supposed to be aspirational. I'm supposed to read it and be inspired and think how glamorous all the socialites lives are and isn't that just charming.

But the reality is, I will never have the money necessary to live the lifestyle Vogue pushes. And most people who read it won't, because the level of wealth necessary for such a life is just not obtainable, unless you were lucky enough to be born into it. And yet these socialites are the people I'm supposed to look up to? 

No. Not happening. It has nothing to do with the socialites personally, but I just can't be in awe of the fact that someone dresses well or has an interesting life when they have piles of money to support them.

And that's why I had to stop reading Vogue, because it was making me bitter. 

And I don't want to be bitter toward people who were born into unfathomable amounts of money, because it doesn't make them bad people, and you can bet your Chanel 2.55 handbag that I would be taking every advantage of that wealth if I had been so lucky. 

But I'm no longer a naive 16-year-old and I want to be inspired by people I can actually relate to and someone who can drop $100,000 in one shopping trip just isn't it.

*Sorry, magazine publishers.

 
 

17 comments:

  1. You can't drop $100,000 in one shopping trip? Why not? :)

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  2. Don't EVEN get me started on those magazines. I get mad about the same thing, and then I also get really mad when they publish articles about "accepting your body" and blah blah blah, but it's not like they have have anyone but size 2 models in their magazines.

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  3. I think it's awesome that you dropped reading Vogue because it made you bitter! I have a few things like that in my life that I still keep going back to (why!??) but mostly have tried to weed those things out. It's amazing how much happier I am when I focus on the things that build me up instead of internally tear myself down!

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  4. Isn't it crazy how we do these things, expecting them to make us feel a certain way, and then when things go TOTALLY LEFT of our expectations, we still try to force them on ourselves?! This is like my love/hate relationship with writing a blog TOTALLY dedicated to my major. Couldn't stand it, every post was forced, but I kept it up for SO LONG trying to convince myself that it had to be me. I'm glad I learned that lesson!!

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  5. Haha, you know where I pulled that figure from? I was watching some show on E! years ago and Tara Reid (yes, American Pie girl now known for her botched liposuction) was shopping and I swear spent that much at one store. I didn't even think she had that much in her bank account. But I figured if she could do that, these Vogue socialites could and more!

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  6. UGH, yes. Vogue's yearly "size" issue is absurd, and I remember once for their age issue, they had the same model portray every age, looking exactly the same in the face, they just put more mature clothes on her.

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  7. Yes, it's so much better! And the reality is there are SO many better publications, lots of them online, for fashion that are way more in-touch with reality and way more fun to read.

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  8. Haha yes, I spent way too long trying to force myself to like boring publications related to fashion because I thought I had to. I'm glad you were able to step away from that blog and eventually get to And Yes to Joy! It fits you perfectly.

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  9. how do people really spend that kind of money on clothes?!!? i don't get it.

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  10. I know, it seems so crazy, but I guess if you've grown up in that environment, it doesn't seem out of place.

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  11. I never got into Vogue, because I got confused with Seventeen back in the day. ALSO, if I had 100,000 I would try and pay off student loans.....HOWEVER, I'm sure I'd look adorable if I could drop that in a shopping trip.

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  12. I love looking at the ads for inspiration but stopped buying because (like you said) I just don't find the damn articles all that interesting! Maybe a few here and there, but I'd rather drop my money on a mag that showcases people I can better relate too! Although, I DO love a good Elle magazine. Just can't help it.

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  13. Oooh, now Seventeen I LOVED. Thought I was so cool reading it and since the articles were about boys and lip gloss, I was all over it. Although really, Crystal? Why pay off student loans when you could buy a Birkin? Thinks about your damn priorities for once.

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  14. I never really read Elle, so I'll have to pick it up sometime! I just don't buy magazines in general anymore since I can just read everything online, but it is really nice to relax with one every now and then. With Vogue though, it's like once you've read one Vogue article, you've read them all--mindless fawning over whoever is being profiled, some boring trend piece. No thanks. (obviously I'm going to have to eat these words when I'm famous enough to write for them)

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  15. You know what else I think about Vogue? Is that even if I could afford any of the things they feature, I wouldn't really want to because I find my Target or Old Navy cardigan to be ten times cuter than the odd new style they feature. Thanks for indulging me my rant ;) xoxo

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  16. I totally agree with this - I actually cancelled my subscription over the summer!

    xx
    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  17. Haha, so true a lot of the time. What passes as fashion can be beyond silly.

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